My Views On Exotic Dancing

I will do a "In the Beginning: Part Two" at a later time, mostly cuz I want to talk about something different. There are two types of dancers: those who flaunt their occupation, and those who conceal it. I want to start off by saying that it is your personal decision how you choose to include your friends, family, and general acquaintances in your professional life. My siblings know what I do, however, grandma and mama do not! You really must take into consideration that your profession may hurt your loved ones greatly, or they could be totally cool with it. You know your family, my advice here is, approach them and their questions with sensitivity. If it might hurt them you may choose to fib. I did. I said I was working as a cocktail waitress at a comedy club getting paid under the table. I had a friend that I danced with and she was from Russia. I asked her if her parents back home knew what she did, and she responded in the funniest little Russian accent, "Fuck no! If my mother knew this she would swim all the way across the ocean to beat my ass!" If you choose to be honest with your family, more power to you! Honesty is an awesome quality. I was watching Austin Powers Goldmember the other day, and one line stuck with me. I know its stupid to use an Austin Powers line as a valuable rule to live by, but here it is," You can spend your whole life trying to make your parents happy, but in the end, its all about what makes you happy, baby, yeah!"
Boyfriends are a different story. In a dancers world there are 3 types of boyfriends: those who are cool with your job, those who hate your job, and those who say they are cool with it but secretly hate it. I think I have number 3. When we were first dating he was OK with it, but slowly over the years, I think it starts to eat away at a guy.
The key to dancing is to make sure that you are comfortable with it. If you're not morally comfortable, you won't be confident, and if you're not confident you won't make any money, so its pointless. I don't feel that dancing takes anything from a woman, or a person for that matter. Its those bad apples that get us all in trouble with public opinion. I know so many girls in the industry that have the most genuine hearts, and best intentions. Exotic Dancers are natural dreamers. They might not be privileged in their past circumstances, but each girl I know has a passion, and an idea of where they want to be someday. The only problems with a lot of us is that we are compulsive, inconsistent, and frivolous financially. Exotic Dancing is legal! Don't ever let anybody make you feel like you are doing something that is illegal. Keep it classy ladies. Don't sell your goods to customers, thats nasty, and that IS illegal. Sell the idea of your goods. Overall, my view of exotic dancing is that it can provide the resources needed to reach a goal, though it may be taboo to your loved ones, it is important in life to do YOU.